Evolution has geared our brains toward a negative bias
while our hearts are yearning for love, joy and connection.
Looking at your life with ADHD as an ongoing experiment, and not as a problem to eliminate, you’ll open yourself to be able to notice how you’ve utilised your natural strengths to overcome difficulties. You’ll become aware of your positive experiences.
Do you acknowledge yourself for all the small steps you’ve taken to deal with your challenges?
ADDers tend to get stuck in a downward spiral of negative rumination. Consciously learning to incline our minds towards celebration, acknowledgement and appreciation, breaks this vicious cycle.
Just notice how often you may tend to get lost in your mind’s struggle with the heaviness of what’s NOT working for you.
To consciously look for and attend to positive experiences may not come naturally, but is a choice that changes your brain and therefore your life.
The more we embrace (letting be and letting go of resistance) and trust (letting go of what leads to suffering) our unique experiences, the more the heaviness of trying to control what happens or doesn’t happen, lifts.
An ADHD brain’s fuel is interest. Consciously direct your attention towards TAKING IN THE GOOD. Both the intensity and repetition of your practise will cause an impact in your neural connections
Following are some guidelines for support:
- Remind yourself of your intention and the bigger picture of your choice to create new and empowering experiences
- Pause (subscribe to the newsletter and download your short free exercise audio)
- Smile into yourself as you rest into the quality of the moment
- pay attention to what you pay attention to
- Allow yourself to linger with and really enjoy your experience – even if your thinking tells you it’s insignificant, allowing it to sink deep into the open space of your non-judgemental awareness
- Connect with the physical sensations in your body
- explore with as many senses as possible
- Stay with feeling the experience in your body for a few seconds
- Regularly practice during the day
- Create supportive reminders for practising
- Reward yourself for taking the time to let your experiences matter to you
Using the science of positive neuroplasticity, you’ll turn ordinary experiences into powerful inner experiences of strength, self-worth and kindness towards yourself and others – one simple step at a time.